Many people automatically assume that going through a divorce will be one of the worst periods of their life, and that the aftermath will leave them feeling empty, lonely or like a failure. While the divorce process can be challenging, it can be a very positive experience and can help both divorcing spouses to grow as individuals, heal from their pasts, and go on to live happy and fulfilled lives.
If you are considering divorce and you are worried about what the future holds, try and stay open to the positive things that may be in store for you. The following are some of the ways that divorce can positively impact you.
You don’t have to be someone that you are not
Those in an unhappy marriage often feel that they have to change themselves to make the other person happy or satisfied. This can lead to both people trying to be someone they’re not simply to please the other. Going through a divorce can help to teach you who you are again. This can be a transformative process, and through it, you may experience a new lease of life.
You will learn that you are enough as you are
Co-dependency is a key trait of the majority of people. Many people have to unlearn their tendencies to depend on others for validation and assurance to find true happiness. Once you go through a divorce and realize that you can be happy alone and that no one has to validate you be yourself, you will feel a new sense of contentment.
You may discover a new purpose or sense of meaning
Being in an unhealthy relationship can blur your vision and stop you from seeing your true potential. When you separate, it’s likely that you will spend time thinking about what you want from your life, and how you would like to impact the world. It may be that you discover new hobbies or passions simply through taking the time to reflect on who you are and who you want to be.
If you are feeling pessimistic about divorce and are wondering whether life will ever be the same again, try to reflect on how much better life could be by going through some uncomfortable changes.